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  • Self realization / Knowing the state of Bhairava

    Few days back, I found a book on Self realization, while walking nearby a street in Göttingen. One of the nicest thing that I like here in Germany is that you can find books outside the houses. Whenever someone is done finished reading a book, they put it outside as 'Zu Verschenken‘ and you can take it. However, I found this book called The Manual for self realization by Shree Lakshmanjo. It is an interesting book on 112 ways of meditation by which someone can know Kal Bhairava.

    What really interesting is that I was thinking about Shaiva tantra lately. Coming from a Baisshya Hindu farmer’s family, I am a worshiper of Lord Shiva and He is my favourite deity. Besides, I have always interest in yogic life. This book has opened my eyes to Shiv tantra and Kashmiri Shaivism. Kashmiri Shaivism is worldwide renowned for its sense of strong spirituality and its practices. However, Shree Lakshmimanjoo has shown some of his spiritual practices how someone can be in the state of Bhairava.

    One of the interesting factor Shree Lakhsmimanjo shares is that no one can be directly in the state of Bhairava. Because it is not possible. Only the knower knows how to be in the state of Bhairava. So, what if we want to realize the existence of Lord Shiva or Bhairava, we must posses the qualities of Bhairavi or Parvati. Because Bhairavi or Parvati is the dearest one to Lord Shiva and only she has the qualities to be with Shiva and be one unified self. Therefore, we cannot directly connect with Bhairava but we can be one with unified self, or Supreme self through attaining the one state lower than the state of Bhairava, which is the state of Parvati. The one who is the dearest of to Lord Shiva.

    Besides, what he really emphasizes on is the essence of understanding self or realizing the self. He shows 112 meditative states here where one can realize their existence through self realization. The idea here is that one can know his creator or the connection with the Supreme only through realizing the fact that He is not a separate entity from us. We need to accept the fact that Lord Shiva resides within us. All we need to do is to understand the nature of self and then we would realize the nature of the Supreme Self.

    The book is filled with practices from the ancient Kashmiri Shaivism going on for thousands of years and understanding of how spiritual realization works. I really liked it. It is definitely recommendable to someone who is interested in spiritualism.

    Link to buy the book: Amazon

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  • Things that I do to sleep

    What do you do to improve your sleep?

    Hi, everyone I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also fine. Today I’m going to talk about the things that I do for sleeping. Let’s deep dive into it.

    Lately, I can not sleep really well. Because my body clock is not working well. I’m still trying to adjust it. Here are the things that I do to sleep well.

    1. I listen calm music. It helps me to reduce my stress level. Natural sound is also really good.
    2. Sometimes, my flatmate and I go for a walk in the wild and do meditation. It helps me a lot to rest my body.
    3. I drink Camelia Tea. It helps me to calm my nerves.
    4. I try to remember which thoughts are taunting me. I try to write them down.
    5. I try to do something creative so that I get rid of my energy that I have not used all day long. It can be from reading to writing , even app making or website building.

    So, that’s all I do. I Hope you liked it. You can also do it if you want. Thanks for reading my blog. Feel free to subscribe me. Have a nice day.

  • The best way to deal with negative thoughts

    What’s the best way to deal with negative thoughts?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also doing well. Today I’m going to talk about the best way to deal with negative thoughts. I think I’m the best guide to give a suggestion on that because I constantly go through chronic depression. So I know how to fight with it.

    Thoughts are an important part of our consciousness. If you are conscious, it is obvious that you will have thought. And thoughts are very much influenced by the food someone consumes, the determined belief that someone has, and the way someone processes information. Now if someone is consuming unhealthy food for themselves, possibility is higher that they have constant bad thoughts. That’s the preliminary thing that someone can do to prevent bad thoughts. Therefore there is an old saying, we are what we eat.

    Then comes the determined belief that someone has, it is very very necessary that someone has a very positive belief. A positive belief always brings positive thoughts in someone’s life. Let’s say someone thinks constantly, that he or she doesn’t deserve anything good in life. Possibility is higher that that person will get that type of results and therefore he will also be triggered by bad thoughts. So it is always necessary that a person has always a positive belief. Now it’s not that if someone has a positive belief and he or she won’t go through any type of challenges or struggles, it is rather a positive mindset to those challenges or struggles. I suggest, always believe in your self no matter what. The world may fall apart but you got to believe in yourself.

    I suggest that no matter what you think, see it as information rather than any real event or anything else. And always think information as information, that is no such true information or false information. It will help you to grow and non-dualistic attitude towards the information. There is a good saying in non-dualism, that human beings are only captivated to thoughts, nothing else. So, try to develop a non-dualistic view.

    If you are going through depression, frustration, anxiety, or any kind of mental illness, it is necessary that you understand the patterns of your thoughts. When someone is depressed or frustrated or anxious, the important part of it is to recognize it and then either note it down or question yourself if you have doubt of yourself. When you are calm and get the best answer to it, write it down. That will absolutely help when you go through any trouble. And always be kind, gentle and be loving to yourself no matter what. You might get a hell of bad thoughts and you might go through a really bad reality, but you got to believe in yourself. Therefore, I say, self help is the best help.

    I always speak of a good self image. That’s the best medicine to anything related to you. If you are going through any type of bad thoughts, it is necessary that you have a good self image. It will save you from a thousand danger that your mind will create. Now you might ask, what is the best way to create a good self image? Positive Affirmation, knowing thyself, knowing your limits and understanding the pattern of your thinking are the first things to create a good self image. When you are aware of your potentials then you would easily understand what you are lacking to have a good self image. Say good things to yourself and never ever PT on yourself. Therefore I say, always have a good self image that people think you are always self assured.

    So, that’s all for today. I hope you liked it. If you have liked it, feel free to subscribe. Thank you very much and have a nice day.

  • The art of persuasion

    What’s a piece of media (book, movie, song) that changed how you see the world?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also fine. Today I’m going to talk about a piece of Media (book, movie, song) that changed my perception of world. Let’s talk about it.

    Recently I have started reading a book and it is called the art of persuasion. The writer actually suggests that we should try to persuade people by our positive persuasion skill instead of making any arguments or any impression that the other person doesn’t like me. It would rather create a positive perception of me in that other person. And how are we going to do that question mark the simplistic answer is that we should try to use our positive persuasion through our speaking skill our gestures and throw our way of talking by which someone can be attracted to us. And that can help us to create a good network where we can actually create a positive connections among people.

    The authors way of thinking has inspired me to try to use positive persuasion to impress people so that I don’t have to go through any negative experiences full stop and I recently started working on it so that I can create a positive impression of me on other people. It actually saves a lot of time and energy.

    Let me give you some examples, recently I have been charged illegally by Swapfiet for no reason even though my contract ended already with them. Yet PayPal kept the connection with the company they could grab the money from me. So instead of getting hyper about the situation or making any scene out of it. What I tried to do is to create a positive impression on that situation. I mailed the customer service of Swapfiet and impressed them by positive persuasion. They returned me the money asap.

    Now some people might say why I didn’t show anger or behaved well in this scenario. It’s simply because I want to do create a positive vibe of me and at the same time I am using my communication skill in a proper manner where I can persuade people.

    Not just that I have also similar scenario with my health insurance where I have been charged for no reason. So rather than going on any hot debate, and rough judgement on them, I’m trying to be very positive and trying to be the gentlest version of me for which they might admire my approach to them. It actually works quite well. And I think you can also try that.

    So that’s all for today. I hope you liked it. Please feel free to subscribe me. Have a nice day!!!

  • The languages that I speak are Bengali, English, German, and Hindi.

    Which languages do you speak and how did that impact your life?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also doing well. Today I’m going to talk about the languages that I speak and how the impact my life.

    Languages are non separable part of our lives and no matter how much we try we cannot get ourselves communicate with others. Therefore it is crucial to develop not just one language I think but more than at least two languages because we are living in an age of globalization. It helps you to create a network or so to say a connotative framework with people where you can have the pun of the language and create your own type of people.

    So the languages I speak are Bengali, English, German and a little bit of Hindi.

    My mother tongue is Bengali. English is my second language and right now the most spoken or used language. I can use or have to use German because right now I’m living in Germany and sometimes I have to use Hindi because I have some friends from India, Pakistan, Nepal and so on and on.

    So how does the languages impact my life? What are the purposes that language serve? So let’s go into the details. The solarly purpose of language is not just communicate but understand people properly. While the Bengali language helps me to communicate with the people from Bangladesh, Calcutta in India, the other languages allow me to be part of the global community. It allows me to be fluid and to get connected with the global people. So you can say that language is a very powerful tool here which is enabling me to be a global citizen.

    Not just that, you can actually make a neurological connection with people which is called connotative framework in which you understand the pun of the language or the sarcasm embedded with the language or the humor related to the language. The moment to understand these things you would understand that you have become part of that certain community.

    Right now I can have the pun of Bengali, Hindi and English (international community, but not specifically British, American or Australian). My understanding of German language has become better but I’m still not that fluent in German. So I barely have the connotative framework with the German people. But I must admit that I have sometimes really good conversations with some random German people. And I love that.

    Besides, I’m using the language’s for the purpose of recognition, creating more visibility of my work and making myself marketable to the world. That is helping me to improve myself constantly.

    So that’s all for today. I hope you liked it. If you like it feel free to subscribe my blog. Thank you very much. Have a nice day!!

  • Who are you? Or Who am I?

    What’s the best advice you’d give to someone younger than you?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also doing well. Today I’m going to talk about the best advice I would give to someone younger than me. Let’s talk about it.

    I think it is better not to give free advice to someone unless someone is asking. Honestly speaking, it doesn’t help at all. It seems very vague to me. I would rather suggest. I’d rather suggest someone younger to me to ask a single question in every step of their life they cross. And that question is, who are you?

    By “who are you?”, I don’t mean to offend you by asking your position, status, etc etc etc. I am rather asking you the question in terms of how you identify yourself, what is your determined value that dictates your perception or your reality. If you can answer that question without any hesitation, that tells that you understand your path, you know who you are and who you are going to be.

    Your status or your positions may not be very helpful in your life. I think it is rather your identity or your values that determines your success, and how confident you are of yourself. It determines that you are sure of your self-image.

    Please do not remain confused about who you are. It is okay not to know your position or your status or your progres regarding life, career etc. It is absolutely not okay to be unaware of or remain confused of your identity. Therefore, it is important that you ask yourself one question and that would save a lot of time, energy and will create counter productivity.

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  • I, myself

    Who are you most inspired by?

    Hi everyone, I hope everyone is doing well. I am also doing well. Today I am going to talk about my inspiration. Let’s deep dive into it.

    From my childhood, I had really problem with following someone as a mentor, guide or as an inspiration. By nature, I’m very skeptical and idealistic. Therefore, I always remain careful who I choose as mentor. Unfortunately I couldn’t even follow my father as my inspiration. Besides, in Hinduism, it is necessary that I follow a Guru so that I can develop spiritually.

    Honestly speaking, I could not choose a Guru. Here’s why, my sister just brainwashed me to be his follower. She took me to a Guru, and he just made me his follower without giving me any prior knowledge . Therefore , I could not just accept him as Guru. Do you think it’s the end of the story? Nope. I’ve seen him feeding his followers Milk that was used to clean his feet. The other day I found him completely senseless due to smoking weed.

    So, this was my experience, after that I never followed anyone. I rather follow my instinct and intuition. I think it’s better to do mistake and learn then accept someone as inspiration who’s faultier than me. That just absolutely makes no sense to me.

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  • Trinity of principles – authenticity, growth oriented and ethical.

    What’s your top tip to be successful in life?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also doing well because I have slept very well today. Today I’m going to talk about my top tips to be successful life. Let’s deep dive down into it.

    Success actually varies from person to person. What you define success is based on very much your individual preference based on your personality. As an idealistic or a perfectionist person, someone sees success in a very different manner than any average people out there. For instance, if someone is successful, an idealistic person or a perfectionist would always check three things. He would definitely check, if the person was authentic, growth oriented and ethical. No matter what you do, these three things are very important for an idealistic or a perfectionist.

    Honestly speaking, if I get success by any means, I cannot be happy with it. My mind would constantly remind me that you have cheated if I were unethical. So, it is very important for me to have these qualities if I want to be successful. If you think you can be authentic, growth oriented and ethical, then these three principles can be your success asset.

    If you think, you don’t need to be a perfectionist or an idealistic person, you don’t need these three principles. What can be your Trinity of principle then? Well, I would suggest you to find out yourself and know what are your three major principles. you can hold on to those three principles and it will lead you to success . I think you go for those qualities and that will make you authentic as well. 

    Besides, growth oriented mind is also an important factor to get success. I would suggest you to be a long-term success oriented someone. You build up yourself step by step, brick by brick fundamentally and if any challenges come, you would never be broken. Because you have built your fundamentals very well.

    And last but not least, always be ethical to yourself, no matter how much hardship you go through. That should be your purpose. If you cannot be ethical to yourself, you can never be ethical to any other person. In that case, success would seem very vague. And success would lose its value.

    So, that’s all for today. Thank you very much for reading my post. Have a nice day.

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  • Human intelligence has got a new form called “artificial intelligence.”

    Humans have a peculiar tendency: we often enjoy taking the long way around a rule to make it feel acceptable. Someone might proudly say they never take bribes, yet if a person is “happy with their work” and offers a gift, they accept it without hesitation. It’s the same action, just wrapped in a nicer story.
    Today, while searching for jobs, I was also exploring the ethics of artificial intelligence. And it struck me—AI is built by humans, shaped by our behaviours, our logic, and our loopholes. Naturally, it reflects our habits too.
    Take a simple example: when a job application asks, “Do you have prior experience?”
    A factual question. Straightforward.
    But I wondered—what if I treat this factual question as a situational one?
    So I asked the AI whether this approach would be acceptable.
    It replied that it wouldn’t be the right thing to do, but then immediately suggested a workaround:
    I could present my teaching experience as interview experience, and therefore frame it as recruitment experience.
    Technically not wrong.
    But it’s a perfect demonstration of how an unethical idea can be polished into something that sounds ethical.
    That’s the point: no matter how modern we become, our old habit of bending the rules doesn’t disappear. And AI isn’t adding a new dimension to this behaviour—it’s simply reflecting our values back to us in a new form.
    Ultimately, I don’t know why I can’t be optimistic about the “AI.”
    Note: This post is originally translated by AI from the actual post:

    https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1CmKDN9PZk

  • The art of saying “No”

    If you could instantly master any skill, what would it be and why?

    A simple yet very powerful skill to adapt. Why? It’s a life changer when you can say no to shitty things.