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  • In terms of “self image”

    What is one way you have grown this year?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also  doing well except the fact that I cannot sleep very well at night. So I’m having a bit trouble. Other than that , I’m absolutely alright.

    Today I’m going to talk about how I have grown this year. Honestly speaking I had a really tough time to get that question because it was really tough for me to understand how I have grown this year. So I had to think first and then answer the question. So let’s deep dive into it.

    I have actually grown this year in terms of self-image. If I look back to my previous self I found out I was very low confident about me and myself esteem was pretty low. I couldn’t think that I deserve something better. And the most troubling thing was that I was fading at everything literally everything so you can understand how destroyed my self-image was.

    Let me give you some examples how bad it was. I was thinking of low quality jobs from me so that I can simply survive. I couldn’t imagine that I deserve someone better in my life because my self-image was so broken. I couldn’t think of someone better in my life who will completely accept me who I am. although I had really good qualities and capabilities but I couldn’t imagine myself better. I was failing at literally everything. I was constantly applying for jobs and not getting any single positive results and that was kind of a hell of a thing that I have been through.

    So how did that happen that myself image suddenly and drastically changed?

    And the beginning of the year something has really changed to be honest. Although I was doing odd job at the beginning of the year, myself image was getting better because the job I was doing maybe an odd job but I was thinking to do it in a perfect way so that I feel good. Are in other words in order to perceive discipline in me, I was trying to be perfect. And it worked quite well. For example, I was doing an odd job in the warehouse first as a item picker and it took me around 8 days to get adjusted with that job. Where as it took me only three days to get adjusted in a lab where I work as a production helper full stop and I saw the results drastically changing.

    Not just that I have become more carrier focused in my life which I never was. And I found out I can do something I can build something and I can actually be very multi working Guy. So when I understood that I’m really good at building my carrier it just boosted my self Image that okay I can at least survive by doing something.

    If I imagine in previous years writing such a large blog, I couldn’t even think of it but what really changed is that I can now talk and write about a lot of things and for a longer time. It’s because I am thinking positive about myself constantly that is giving me the validation that I was taking from others.

    Myself image was pretty bad because I was always seeking attention from others, seeking validations from others and I had a tendency of people pleasing. And I stopped all of them with the passage of time full stop and that’s why myself image has become far better, not just that I do not allow any kind of negative people around me. And that preserves my energy a lot. This is I think everything happened because of myself image has become better and I think I am very much valuable to the world.

    Thank you for reading my blog. I appreciate your effort. Have a nice day. And yes feel free to subscribe me. That would be highly appreciated.

  • Discipline, consistency, and focus

    What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also doing well. Today I’m going to talk about something I wish I could tell my 20 years old self. Now I’m going to write about it. So, let’s deep dive into it.

    When I was 20 years old, I was so rushed, confused and inconsistent. Because I was not sure where my life was going . And there was barely anyone who could guide me through my life. My father died when I was 17 years old. So there was barely anyone to guide me through my journey. It was like I was all alone in my journey and no one was around to guide me. I had to go through a lot of struggles and yes, I’m still struggling. And now I know the reasons why. Because I understood that I am not focused,consistent and disciplined enough.

    So every time I think of my previous self, I always try to tell my previous self that you could have been more focused I’m consistent and things would have been much more easier for me right now. So why are these three things important for me?

    Has anyone heard of trinity of principles? It’s a way of dealing your actions your life or anything that you are working one can be progressed through three principles. And that’s why I choose consistency, Focus, and discipline.

    So what does these principles do?

    They actually help you to understand in which direction you should go and how you can succeed. Discipline helps you to organize yourself. No matter how messy your life is how tough it is to come out of your comfort zone, is necessary that you understand discipline is the key to form your life in a perfect shape. So if you think you cannot make it, try to organize things in a more disciplined way. You cannot organize everything all in one but step by step. And that will shape you and make you ready for your upcoming struggles.

    Consistency is important because you got to show up no matter how tough things become. And you have to work constantly on one Project. If you just fail and move to another project that wouldn’t bring you success. That would lead you to another failure. So instead of failing in different things you can focus on failing in one subject so that in future you can succeed on that particular thing and trust me that success would be huge. That could make you someone very popular and recognized enough. That’s why consistency is important.

    It’s not that consistency is important for your career but also for your relationships. If you can give consistent effort in your relationship with your girlfriend, it might lead you to a fruitful marriage that you could never think of.

    And last but not least, focus is very very important. When you are not focused enough, you just roam and roam like a radarless boat. You need to focus so that you understand yourself more and keep upgrading yourself constantly. That makes you a hardworking genius who knows himself and builds you up a tough man to beat.

    And yes, now it’s impossible to go back to my previous self our previous life and so what I do right now is that I always tell myself that I was consistent, focused and disciplined. I assure myself that I had this three qualities when I was 20 years old. It gives me an assurance that here I was in the right track and I am in the right track and I will be in the right track.

    Thank you for reading my blog. I really appreciate it. I hope you have a nice day.

  • Healthy relationship boundaries

    Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also doing fine. Today I’m going to talk about some healthy relationship boundaries that I maintain. Let’s dive deep into it from a man’s perspective.

    Healthy relationship boundaries are important. They are like fences around the house which protects from unnecessary chaos so that you could protect your peace. And if your relationship is not based on your peace and trust me it is going to create a lot of Chaos. And I have been through all of it. So here are some of the advices I can give you.

    1. When and women speaks, you got to listen. You got to listen very calmly. You don’t argue back with her. Trust me it will solve 90% of your problems. Women needs a good listener. When you listen to her with a calm nature and understanding, I highly doubt she would even argue with you. You would slowly become a best friend and a partner at the same time.

    2. Learn to say no when things become toxic. I had a relationship previously with a girl who had barely any healthy border lines. She was a complete chaos. He brought chaos from the outside our relationship and put it in between us. And I gently reminded her of those things that what she was bringing within the relationship. Yet she barely cared about it . Day by day the relationship became toxic and I had no option but to break up with her.

    3. Learn to know when to cut off the relationship. With that girl, I told her to break up, because things were not working. She felt so insulted that she wanted to take revenge on me. She was agreeing to everything  to show me that the relationship is working . Trust me it wasn’t. And by the name of it what she was doing, she cut me off from all my friends and family. She was talking ill to my mother about me . By the name of self development, she told me to quit all the social networks. she didn’t just stop there. I could sense her intention to destroy me. I told her to end the relationship peacefully and respectfully so that no party is harmed or remains ashamed of it. She didn’t listen to it and everything became chaotic. And I had no options but to cut off her.

    4. Never bring a third person. It’s the most dangerous thing to do. Instead it is important to solve the problems within yourselves. When you have a hot debate with your partner, it is necessary that both the parties keep the distance for a while. Until you become calm. When you guys are calm, you come close to each other. You discuss the things. What’s working and what’s not working. You don’t bring third person in it.

    5. It is really important to understand your partner. For example, my recent partner is very shy and introvert. She cares a lot about her privacy. I sometimes give a nudge that she needs to open herself. It’s not that she doesn’t want to but she cannot . So I have to be very patient with her no matter what. I help her to be more open to me by listening to her and by being supportive. It’s not that I have to put a lot of money in it but by being there for her when she is struggling.

    6.Defend and respect your partners dignity. When you find out someone is talking ill about your partner, you got to defend it no matter what. That’s a must. If you can’t keep her dignity, there’s no point in keeping that relationship.

    7. Accountability is another factor that you must keep in your mind. It is really important that both the partners are accountable. If the partner is not accountable enough, you got to express it to her. If she works on it that means she really loves you. She wouldn’t argue about the problems you are facing.

    8. Never bring up the things that bothers your partner. It is a must in your relationship. If you don’t maintain this that means you don’t respect the relationship. Instead you focus on yourself more than the relationship.

    9.  Try to communicate more and opening yourself up. It is the best way to building up a relationship. I always talk about the issues that I go through and the past that traumatizes me. It is necessary to bring it up to understand whether my partner really cares about me or not and she is gentle about it. Same goes for her as well. When she brings issues about her past, I listen it to it, and I give my opinion on it what wae wrong in that relationship. I don’t judge her, I don’t brag these issues with her when we have fights. It is because these talks are not to use it as weapons to each other.

    10. Always be the cheerleader of your partner. Whenever she is thinking off doing something, be positiv about that and suggest what she can do. That creates a safe space for both. In this way, you build a safe guard for her and she becomes more loyal to you.

    11. Nowadays I hear a lot of men talking about the masculine energy in woman or feminism. Stop complaining right now. Instead understand her needs. When you start understanding her needs and bringing her comfort especially emotionally, she will automatically stop bringing these things to you.  The walls automatically dissolves when you build up emotional safety for her.

    12. Do some spiritual practices with her. For instance I chant mantras with my partner. We believe that the same spiritual frequency will keep us bonded and grounded. And therefore we do it together. Ever since we started it, we barely stopped. And it works for us both.

    13. Always remember that she is the Boss. It’s not because she is dominant or controlling. It is important for you to surrender to her unless and until she is narcissistic or a psycho. Because women are emotionally intelligent. That’s why it is necessary that you surrender to her.

    14. Try doing something together see how well you bond with each other. Can you be flexible enough to make a team work? If it works, that’s fantastic. That means you are very compatible with each other. If it doesn’t, rather avoid it. It’s not the end of the world.

    15. Always make time for each other, no matter what. Watch a series / movie she likes to watch. I do that too. It’s fun. Her choice and taste is good. If you don’t like it, simply tell that to her. If she is understanding enough, she will listen. But do something else then.

    16. Last but not least, your partner will be quite the opposite in most cases. So, learn to accept that. Things will become much easier for you.

    That’s all for today. I hope it helps. Thank you for reading my blog. Subscribing to my channel would be much appreciated. Thank you.

  • The fear that I’ve overcome – facing interviews.

    What’s a fear you’ve overcome — and how did you do it?

    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I’m also fine thank you.

    Today I am going to talk about fear that I’ve overcome. So let’s deep dive into it.

    Honestly saying, I have really fear of public speaking or facing any interviews. It makes me overwhelmed when I have an interview. I could literally feel the stress for two-three days before the interview day.

    So how did I overcome that fear?

    Let’s break this according to Trinity of principles. And the principles here are acknowledgement, acceptance and go through it. This theory will work for any type of fear so I am not writing just on the basis of that particular fear but fear in general.

    Acknowledgement: I overcame the fear through acknowledgement, the acknowledgement that the fear will always be there and I cannot do anything about it. So what I do is simply acknowledge it that fear is part of me. One of the best part of acknowledging your emotions are accepting your emotions makes you your own emotional validator. This is where the magic starts.

    Acceptance: now that you have acknowledged your fear, your body will start accepting aid as your emotion. So your body treats it like its own and accepts the fact that you can’t avoid it no matter what.  So, the body takes accountability of it’s emotion. A simple gesture of acceptance just makes the journey smooth to go through your fear. Now that you have accepted that this is your fear. Write how you feel about those fears and not every aspect of it. It helps you track your fear.

    Go through it: okay since you have accepted the fact that you have fear, you go through it. Within this you understand that you can transform your emotions. Cause it’s your emotion and you and your mind can control your emotions. Signal your brain that okay I understand you are going to fear but what I  need right now is a happy jolly face of mine, which shines like a star infront of the people. And trust me, I was literally smiling all the time during my last interview. A simple trick to tweek my emotions has just enabled me to smile during my fear. The interview was absolutely brilliant. I smoothly passed it. And my interviewer was really happy about it.

    So, this was the story of overcoming my fear. And the recent project right now I’m working on is to make myself visible to people. I need to overcome the feae of facing criticism and getting fame. I believe, I overcome it.

    How about yours? Feel free to share and let me know about my Trinity of principles.

    Thank you very much for reading the post I really appreciate your effort. Have a nice day.

  • Discipline, Authenticity and Self-image

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    Hi everyone, I hope you guys are doing well. I am also fine. Thank you.

    Today I am going to write about the best way to build self confidence. You can apply so many approaches, yet it is better to have a specific pattern to self image building. I follow trinity of principles. So, let’s deep dive into it.

    Note: What is trinity of principles?

    “Trinity of principles is a concept based on three principles in order to simplify the process of action, so that the someone remains determined of his or her subjectivity. These are the priorities that someone cannot avoid in order to achieve greater success. It is a minimalistic approach to life.”

    Self confidence can be build through several skills and principles such as positive thinking, self caring, listening to motivational speaking, doing things that someone likes and so on and on. There is no single specific pattern to it. Therefore, I am going to explain the process with trinity of principles, I choose three fundamentals/ principles to achieve the result. and the three principles of my self confidence are discipline, authenticity and self-image.

    Discipline: Okay, let us say that you have a very low self confidence image of yourself. You are trying and trying but cannot get out of it, right? you are trapped in a loop of breaking down. Now how to come out of it? You seem helpless but you cannot get out of it. You would act like if you are stuck in a confused matrix and you cannot move out. Now what can you do? The simplest answer is to discipline yourself by recognizing the pattern and then restructuring it. You start to notice what are the things that are going wrong, and then the simplest solution to stop it is to discipline. Nothing more than that, nothing less than that. If you maintain the discipline for minimum 21 days, it will end up a habit and you will also notice that you are developing a new structure where you do not feel inferior anymore.

    Authenticity: As you have found out the problems, recognizing the problems is itself becomes a solution. When you develop discipline, you end up having a structure. and Now? Now what? Now it is time to be authentic, it is time to return to your authentic self. You might love the new you, yet I would suggest you still need to adjust values so that you remain authentic to yourself. Besides, Neither you nor your closest ones would be able to predict you. The unpredicted self would trouble you as much as your confused self used to.

    Self-image: Now comes the final part, and the crucial part of the principles, that your self image. Since you have been able to recognize your problems, your authentic self, it is now possible that you boost your self image. Now why self image is important?

    You can read the book, Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. The author used to be a plastic surgeon and later he became a self help author. He used to perform a lot of plastic surgeries to people. It took 21 days for them to establish a positive self image with their new identities and those who did not, the problem lied in their psychological self image. So, he suggested to have a positive self image. It boost your confident to 110%, if you just start believing you have a positive self image.

    Infact, he even gives an examples of a salesman who use to work as a salesman and he had a large nose, for which he was struggling to make any sales. He became incapable of making any sales, his boss was about to fire him. The salesman thought it was due to his large nose for which people did not like him. So, he went to Mr. Maltz inorder to seek help. So, Mr Maltz suggests him to practice positive self image at least for 21 days and forget that he has a large nose. Interestingly, it worked like magic. And he ends up becoming one of the best salesman.

    So, yes, having a positive self image boosts your self confidence.

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  • My Passion

    What are you passionate about?

    Hello everyone, good morning. I hope you are all doing well. 

    I am a man of diverse passion. Ever since I started self exploring, I found out, I have a diverse set of passions and hobbies. It’s quite an interesting revelation for me.

    I am passionate about flowers, nature, books, travelling, photography, going for a walk alone,  I like looking at the stars, the night blue sky, the blue water, the colors of the rainbow, the morning sunshine, the birds, the animals. I love babies irrespective of gender, animals and what so on. I like to think, to read book, to learn new things. I like to cook new foods, watch interesting movies, listen to epic music, play games. And what so not?

    I do everything with passion now. It feels good. It makes me feel alive, be in the moment.

    Thank you.

    What about you? Let me know. Thank you for your time.

  • The luxury that I can’t live without…..

    What’s the one luxury you can’t live without?

    Hello everyone, how you doing? I hope everything is alright with you.

    Ever since I started self exploration, I found out can get rid of everything I want. I had to detach myself from any kind of attachments. Besides, at this stage of life, nothing is so important in my life. I have tested it with Money, woman, even craving for sex or physical attachment as well. In fact, the way I left my urge for smoking cigarettes, I felt really bad for cigarettes. That was the most addictive thing I had ever had and long lasted for around 12-13 years. I gave up cigarettes, with just one saying. And that is, I never smoke. Not just smoking, I also broke the habit of drinking coffee, and alcohol.

    After reaching 30, I found out, I have to be healthy if I want to have a decent life. Therefore, saving energy is definitely a priority to me. So, just to save energy, I completely change myself, apart from just one thing, one luxury. And this luxury is my phone. I still use my phone for quite a long time every day. It’s a luxury that I can’t live without and costing me a lot of time. 😬

    Well, not because it’s a true luxury, but because it does quite most of the thing for me, from connecting people to creating new habits. Almost everything is done by this luxury.

    I don’t know if I am able leave this luxury. What about you? Ate you able to see yourself without smartphones? If not, why?

    Thank you for reading. Have a wonderful day!!

  • The most important things needed to leave a good life

    What are the most important things needed to live a good life?

    Life is getting complicated day by day especially when you are in your 30+ age. Everything gets super messy, yet you have to act very calm. You cannot react to everything and you have to be able to bypass a lot of things that must not bother you. Because you need a good life, right? So what are the things that really necessary for a good life? Let me tell you my story of having the important things in life.

    To me, identity, discipline and ethics at the most important things for a good life. Let me clear it out to you.

    I am a Bangladeshi living in Germany. And technically I have the duality of living two identity simultaneously and trust me it becomes hectic one you have to have 2 identity simultaneously. You cannot be completely I was Western man because then your relatives would barely recognize you. And they would think that you are not close to them anymore. Even sometimes my mother cannot even recognize me. So to my mother I have two be completely an mirroring image of my father and mine. Or else she doesn’t recognize me.

    Modern life is very stressful and it is very chaotic honestly. Because you have to handle a lot of stress. And as a man you have to bypass your stress. No one deserves to get your stress not even your close ones? So what you’re gonna do? The simplest idea is to adapt the yogic life. As a Hindu, I mixed my yogic life with my Modern Life, so that I can get rid of the extra hectics and stress that I have to deal with. So in this case identity framework plays a really good role. Adjustment of identity help me to get over the things that I’m not supposed to digest.

    So how do I discipline myself? I discipline myself as a Yogi. I found out that being a Yogi in the wild is Not greater than being a Yogi in the society. It’s way more important to be a Yogi in the society than to be a Yogi who left the society. And discipline is the key where you maintain your yogic life . and discipline only goes to yourself. You don’t burden others with disciplines. So what are the disciplines that I maintain? I do meditation every day. I go for a walk in the wild and meditate there for quite a time. It heals me so easily that I don’t need to care about other things. I don’t have to pass my stress to other people.

    Some people are afraid of technology because the are in fear of losing their discipline, privacy because of technology. So what they prefer is a traditional life. I mixed my traditional life with technology so that I don’t have to go through all this drama. Ich sehe important that you assimilate with this views and then you adjust. What I did is just be careful about what I share in social media and internet. As I need to be careful about my privacy but I did is like I created a matrix where I share only one person of the truth in the internet and social media. The technology might have idea about me but it’s just 1% representable as me. And the rest 99% is unrecognizable to the internet and they cannot identify who I am. It’s not that I use any VPN or any other private secret services. It’s just that I know what I am and what I should keep as secret. It’s just that silly simple. Simply discipline.

    I’m a man of ethics . I cannot go beyond my ethics. As a man it’s must that you have some common ethics you maintained. So what are my ethics? Be honest, Be loyal and be loving to you myself.  that is what always encourages me to have a good life. I never cheat never betray and never say something that would hurt myself. It’s a self-love where I don’t like to be cheated by myself. That is what pushing me towards a good life.

    Thank you very much for reading my blog. How is your story? Let me know. Have a nice day!